Intercultural Marriage
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I once worked with an Irish lady who knew Shane Lynch from the group Boyzone. She told me that she asked him why he chose to marry Black women when there are so many beautiful White women for him to choose from. As she continued talking I realised that she was consumed with jealousy. She viewed Shane's preference for Black women as a rejection of White women, which in her mind meant a rejection of her.
I once worked with an Irish lady who knew Shane Lynch from the group Boyzone. She told me that she asked him why he chose to marry Black women when there are so many beautiful White women for him to choose from. As she continued talking I realised that she was consumed with jealousy. She viewed Shane's preference for Black women as a rejection of White women, which in her mind meant a rejection of her.
In the film 'Save The Last Dance', Bianca Lawson's character, Nikki gets into a fight with Julia Stiles' character, Sara over her interracial relationship with a Black boy. Nikki accuses Sara of 'taking our men' before going on to say: "The whole world ain't enough you got to conquer ours too". The film is fictional so I can't say whether any Black women feel that way in real life.
The comic Loni Love's memoir discusses the hatred that she received after going public with her relationship to actor James Welch. Loni says that she was called a "sell-out" and a "bed wench" by "haters" online. One person made a 30 minute YouTube video comparing Loni to a slave and James to "a plantation owning white devil". Thankfully, Loni's lawyers got the video taken down.
The Tupac Shakur Thug Angel documentary references a 1993 interview that Tupac did with The Source in which he criticised Quincy Jones for marrying White women. Tupac is quoted as saying: "How we gonna have mixed families and we don't even have Black families?" Quincy's daughter Rashida wrote a response condemning Tupac for his comments which prompted Tupac to apologise. Tupac began to date Quincy's daughter, Kidada and the family forgave him for his remarks.
The children born into intercultural marriages often have to deal with racial issues which can cause a lot of pain. Rashida Jones was born to a Black father and a White Jewish mother so she identifies as Black, White and Jewish. In an interview with Glamour Magazine, Rashida is quoted as saying: "If you're obviously black, white people watch their tongues, but with me they think they can say anything. When people don't know "what" you are, you get your heart broken daily".
The above painting by Jacob Jordaens depicts the prophet Moses with his Ethiopian wife. The Bible tells us that 'Miriam and Aaron spoke against Moses because of the Ethiopian woman whom he had married (Numbers 12:1 NKJV)'. God became angry with them for criticising Moses and He struck Miriam with leprosy. God's reaction indicates that he approved of Moses' decision to marry an Ethiopian woman so we can assume that intercultural marriages are NOT outside of the Will of God.